Most recently my neighbour who was just 51 years old died due to heart failure. He has been in hospital for a couple of weeks. But no one even predicted that this person will lose his life. In the late evening, I along with my family went to that home to pay our condolences. But I noticed a strange thing, a bit different from normal occasions. No one is crying. It seemed as if every one of his dear ones has digested the utter truth of separation and that their tears were dried up. Kids are of 15 and 18 years old, yet they have accepted the truth. We were a little late too! I assumed so.

Later after 41 days, I was at my home enjoying my vacation. I just phoned them for a personal matter. She told me, “My daughter is suffering from fever right now. 2 days before she went to a water theme park and got viral infection”. I kept silent for a while and told my husband so. He was very much surprised and he asked, “Hardly one and a half month has passed since he is dead. Family is enjoying water theme park! Really surprising!” I too was surprised a little bit, because after the 16 day rituals were over, these kids frequently used to ask me video cds and downloads. They even told me, we are feeling bored at home. I too felt several times, didn’t they love their dearest father?

The example I quoted here is just one instance. It is the correct example of present homes and their relationships. Now from joint families, homes have constrained to atomic homes. Also relations are losing its freshness. During my childhood, homes lived like a society. Also no walls between homes and everyone can freely walk from one home to another. But in the present times, it’s people’s constraint thoughts and feelings of insecurity that ask them to use bricks and build walls to separate themselves from neighbours. It’s not the case of towns and villages. It is applicable even in the case of remote villages.

Earlier, if a death occurs in the society it’s something like lose of a member of the family. Each and every member of the society used to deeply associate themselves with the person who died and his family. Very often, a lot of people, though not relatives, used to spend with the whole family for days. Even from distance it can be known that someone is dead. But now such homes give a deep silence, only people gather around! People have forgotten to show emotions through tears! That’s the utter truth. Now the death of a neighbour is something like death of a known person, earlier it was something like lose of a family member. Now things have taken a new shape. Yes, relationships are fading. It is just a matter of one or two days!

Even in the case of my lost neighbour, I could easily notice that only the nearest relatives were present. Neighbours were almost nil. People go to such homes to show their head only. Everything is for pretention, nothing else!  

Article Posted By : Sandhya Rani  On June 20, 2013lView All Articles

We can't go back to that old era of innocent bondings that existed between families

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Bond of relationships , fading relations , present relations